tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post4680073599370634550..comments2024-03-27T09:05:25.928+00:00Comments on Disaffected Scanner Jockey: Can I Be Completely Honest? Oh, Like Anyone Wants THATShannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16089796721473561446noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-88776146861087256322009-10-08T13:20:44.194+01:002009-10-08T13:20:44.194+01:00I am exceedingly blunt. I try to moderate it more...I am exceedingly blunt. I try to moderate it more for people I care about not by being less truthful but by keeping the truth to myself if i think it might be hurtful and I see no reall compelling reason to share it.<br /><br />for those I do not know and love though - why bother? Of course this may be why I do not make a ton of new friends.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028778070561332377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-40100665481382706762009-10-07T23:32:46.972+01:002009-10-07T23:32:46.972+01:00My friend Rebecca is a very honest person and I lo...My friend Rebecca is a very honest person and I love her for it. She's no nonsense and that inspires me to be the same.Dmbosstonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05631276118039762167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-61157855485471718842009-10-07T21:56:19.610+01:002009-10-07T21:56:19.610+01:00I, also, tend to be too blunt and honest. My frie...I, also, tend to be too blunt and honest. My friends frequently introduce me as, "This is my friend Meghan. She *will* offend you." At points it's bothered me, but overall I take pride in it. People don't have to wonder what I truly think or feel.<br /><br />Most people prefer the brutal truth in the long run, I think. Sugarcoating or out-and-out lies don't help anyone. Though I *do* try and tone down the bluntness with new acquaintances or strangers when possible.meghansdiscontenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12924247276919216201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-79173469846692104292009-10-07T17:52:38.312+01:002009-10-07T17:52:38.312+01:00HP - I think some people are sensitive in particul...HP - I think some people are sensitive in particular places, so, once you know them well you can avoid the obvious landmines. Luckily, you've never hit upon my sensitivity toward being called a purple people eater.<br /><br />kelsi - I actually have the family boxes - even one labeled "Skye's Crap" that consists of her old school reports, etc. (naturally, most of her school creative writing lessons involved plotting my death.)Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16089796721473561446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-82093927644982968392009-10-07T17:12:09.794+01:002009-10-07T17:12:09.794+01:00I have a friend whose mother used the same line on...I have a friend whose mother used the same line on him - after the first one, it seems like babies just aren't that exciting. Or something.<br />He also recently got an email from this same mother, apropos of nothing, saying "We're throwing this last box of your stuff. Do you want any of it?" And the stuff listed included things like, oh, childhood photographs and cards he'd made for his dad in grade school.kelsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664199219218001021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-57440539222668646952009-10-07T16:01:30.335+01:002009-10-07T16:01:30.335+01:00I tend to be a bit blunt, so I often find myself h...I tend to be a bit blunt, so I often find myself having to review a lot of what I say before it exits my mouth. That said, my general rule of thumb is that if you think it will hurt somebody's feelings, don't say it. On the other hand, people can be unpredictably overly-sensitive. Sometimes you just gotta bite your tongue and complain about it later to your mommy.HPhttp://heypretty.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-64453294024416245352009-10-07T15:57:02.280+01:002009-10-07T15:57:02.280+01:00Brando - Plus, the Truth never chips in for gas or...Brando - Plus, the Truth never chips in for gas or tolls.<br /><br />Cyndy - What's weird is that I don't recall being at all hurt or offended by my mom's comment. Actually, it struck me as quite reasonable and pretty damn funny.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16089796721473561446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-46246654342502963292009-10-07T15:32:30.692+01:002009-10-07T15:32:30.692+01:00In my house the rules were a little different. Th...In my house the rules were a little different. The brutally honest mother did not want to hear brutal honesty coming back at her apparently, so we learned to keep our mouths shut. So instead I saved a lot up for certain opportune moments. Way to raise passive-aggressive children Mom!<br /><br />These days I just try to find a good balance between total honesty and keeping my mouth shut.Cyndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787927933858782267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056861.post-52696532835442722622009-10-07T14:20:03.844+01:002009-10-07T14:20:03.844+01:00I have a friend who isn't actually dishonest, ...I have a friend who isn't actually dishonest, because I think you have to know what you're saying isn't true for it to actually be a lie. But he has absolutely no care whatsoever as to whether what he's saying is true. It's almost as though if Truth were a woman, he wouldnt' violate her, but he'd leave her on the side of the road since he didn't want to have to make any extra stops.Brandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06219319435229314554noreply@blogger.com